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How to tell if you’re dating, seeing each other, or just hooking up

22 | 09 | 2017

Tricky one isn’t it… When your friends ask ‘do you think it will be a relationship?’, ‘When do you think he will ask you out?’, ‘You might as well be going out’, ‘do you want it to be something else?’, ‘do you like him in that way?’. When is it ok to put a name to it? When is the right time to go from dating to seeing someone? It really is down to ‘when the time is right’, I reckon you just know, it may take 2 weeks, 6 weeks, 6 months who knows. Just go with it…


How to tell if you’re dating, seeing each other, or just hooking up


There are 4 key stages in the build up to a legit relationship we would say, everybody see’s things differently, but here’s some help bae’s if you’re struggling on where you think you’re at.



You’re talking quite a lot, every day or every other day. He’s asking to see you at least twice a week. He is suggesting drink and lunch dates, and cute day trips, where you can spend quality time getting to know each other. There’s those moments after every date where you are thinking will he text me, will he not? Do you even want to see him again? But all the while it’s exciting getting to know someone new.



Hooking Up

Your friends will always tell you ‘3 date rule’ but I don’t think this works. If it’s going to be a ‘hooking up’ kind of relationship you can usually figure this out pretty quickly, in most cases the guy makes it obvious in the first or second date, stuff he says, very confident and doesn’t wait around putting the moves on… If you get my drift. You won’t talk everyday it will be the occasional ‘are you out tonight?’ ‘free on Wednesday?’ but it’s cool because you’re both busy, and you haven’t got time for anything more anyway…



Seeing Each Other

Sh*t gettin’ cray over here. You can officially say you’re ‘seeing each other’ when you’re spending time together at least twice a week without fail. You got those sleepovers going down and you’ve had the ‘I’m not seeing anyone else’ chat. You talk over Whatsapp but you call each other for chats instead. You’re meeting each others friends, and occasionally slipping in a couple of double dates now and again.


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