Grace Victory Q&A on Being Pregnant in a Pandemic
Catch up with our girl Grace as she gives us the highs and lows of being pregnant during a worldwide pandemic…
Guess who got pregnant in the middle of a pandemic? Me, I did haha!
Iâ€™d been feeling extremely tired and emotional for a few weeks and I randomly woke up one day and NEEDED an egg mayo sandwich which was so weird so my boyfriend suggested I do a test and bam.. those two lines on a clear blue test lit up like a Christmas tree and at a scan the next day we found out we were two months pregnant. I had never been so excited in all of my life because a part of me wondered if this day would ever come and now suddenly I am over 30 weeks pregnant. My hospital bag is packed, nipple pads have been bought and his beautiful little nursery is complete. I feel ready, I feel excited, I feel grateful, but I also feel somewhat anxious, annoyed and completely let down by the covid maternity rules and lack of support for pregnant people during this time. In todayâ€™s blog I thought Iâ€™d answer some pressing questions about what itâ€™s like being pregnant in a pandemic.
Q; Whats been the hardest part?
Without a doubt going to scans alone. I am so incredibly close to my partner and our relationship really is just the best so experiencing so many firsts and appointments without him is so shit! We are having to pay Â£70+ for private scans so that he is able to attend which is an absolute privilege because I know that others may not be able to afford to do so. It took two people to create this baby and I think itâ€™s disgusting that partners arenâ€™t allowed to see their unborn children, or have a say in their care by speaking to midwives and doctors.
Q; Will you be giving birth with a mask on?
Fortunately no. This isnâ€™t a requirement at the hospital/birthing centre I am giving birth in. Breathing is such an important factor of birthing a baby that I couldnâ€™t imagine having to do so with a mask on – I would not be happy lol, but I also understand why in some places this is imperative.
Q; Do you feel like youâ€™ve missed out on a real pregnancy experience?
I think because its my first pregnancy and I donâ€™t know any different, it doesnâ€™t feel like Iâ€™ve missed out, but it covid does make me feel a little isolated and restricted with plans and opportunities that I would have experienced. I really wish I couldâ€™ve had a baby shower because it wouldâ€™ve been so nice to see loved ones, have some good food and play games etc, but due to lockdown, restrictions and then the different tiers, making plans has been impossible. I also hate Zoom and didnâ€™t want to have a virtual baby shower so weâ€™ve decided to have a massive post birth party in early 2021 summer (fingers crossed).
Q; Whatâ€™s it like going to appointments alone?
Honestly, it can be quite anxiety inducing, especially if something gets flagged which is what happened to me recently. I explained to the doctor that I hadnâ€™t been feeling well so she checked my heart rate which was sky high. The next thing I knew I was being taken to triage and admitted and I wasnâ€™t discharged until 10 days later. Nobody likes feeling alone – especially vulnerable and hormonal pregnant people but you just have to get on with it. It sucks so much, but it is what it is. By the time we have a second child, covid should be long gone!